Ok so this is a long story but I am going to explode if I don't say something. I work in an independent bookstore and my boss is a lesbian. I honestly have absolutely no problem with anyone from an " alternative lifestyle" , but I am straight. Well, she apparently thinks that the only reason I am having sex with my husband is that I haven't had sex with a woman. She has said this to me word for word. We were friends, well she thinks we still are but we aren't. I took her into my home when her and her partner broke up. I took over the full time position when her other employee quit and it was fine for awhile and then we got a new part-time person. I have written about her before and some of this is just a recap. Well we are really good friends now and spend a lot of time together.Then my boss goes a little crazy, she took me aside and talked to me for 30 minutes about how She thought we were friends but she guesses that the mistake was hers and that she thinks I have been blowing her off (not true) and that I don't want to spend any time with her anymore(True). I spent half of that time telling her she was being crazy and that of course I still liked her (Which at the time I still did). I thought that would be the end of it. BUT NO!!! I realize now that when she came to me for help and asked me to do a spell for her about 4 months ago that I should not have done it. I should have told her I didn't feel comfy doing that and let that be the end of it, but she just kept pushing so I said yes. It was a good spell too. anyway last night she comes in right before I finished closing up the store and puts the crystal I had given her on the counter and asks if I can reuse it. I told her that I prefer to bury mine when I feel the spell has finished. She looked at it for a minute and then throws it into the trash. I felt this really disrespected everything that I had done for her, spell wise and everything else and it made me realize that she just doesn't care at all about anything I have tried to do for her. Then this morning she comes in and asks me to perform another spell for her. Now this just blew me away because she obviously didn't like the first one and she is now begging me to do another one. So I told her no and I told her why. I was very calm and rational about the whole thing and I am very proud of myself as I really wanted to burn the store down around her at this point. But I told her how I felt and then went back to what I had been doing. She said that is just fine then and slams the door to the office/ storage room (which by the way has the only bathroom and litter box available) and locks the door. She kept it locked for 4 hours. Then she comes out and tries to act like nothing happened. She finally realized that I wasn't going to be ok with her acting like a 5 year old (she is about to be 50 years old by the way) and went and bought me some ice cream as a peace offering. This is the part that threw me through the roof. she said do you forgive me? I told her yes and she said cause I can't have you mad and even if you aren't mad I just can't have you. I am so tired of her coming on to me. I am married and deeply devoted to my husband and she knows that. She knows my husband obviously since she lived with us for 3 months. now I need to know if I am overreacting or did she really overstep the bounds??
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um...you let her!!...you let her overstep whatever "bounds"- if any- that you ever had in the relationship- |
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At the risk of sounding to parent-like, Ya done good! Sounds like you get to be the adult in this relationship for the time being. Hopefully by continuing to act as an adult and not buying into her parent-child fantasy she will remember how to behave like one. |




Nope... not overreacting at all and I commend you for not losing it!
HeatherShe is waaay over the line in several areas.
Personally I'd start looking for a way out of this job and all contact with her. She'll suck the life right out of you if you give an inch.
Good luck and blessings...
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